I am selfish. I am rude. I am arrogant.
I am cunning. I am manipulative. I am an unpredictable twenty-something with an impatient, quick-tempered mind.
I am a lazy millennial that wholeheartedly believes work is one of the most unproductive activities people participate in.
I am an egotistical neurotic that is constantly frustrated by the decisions of others; no matter who they are.
I am a “Negative Nancy” who has a tendency to believe the worst will happen, regardless of who assures me otherwise, as I naively believe obtainable bad will prevail over unattainable good – because the glass is half-full.
And so are you*.
If you’ve tried to better yourself, you are selfish.
If you’ve attempted to convince someone, you are manipulative.
If you’ve changed your mind in the heat of a moment, you are unpredictable.
And if you’ve ever had an uneasy feeling about a certain situation and expressed your concerns, you are pessimistic.
Words have definitions; and, if we act in accordance with these (even just once), we must conform to these interpretations.
It makes… sense?
Right? Of course not.
Society has a terrible habit of judging people from their mistakes; and I, for one, am tired of it.
The old adage “it takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it” irks me.
We should be teaching each other to learn from our mistakes.
Not emphasizing the ridiculous notion that just one will be irreparable.
I’m not perfect.
I know I’m a flawed individual.
I know I’ve made terrible decisions. I know I’ve wronged others. I know I’ve caused hurt.
But that doesn’t mean I should be defined by my blunders.
Because we’re all going to ‘fuck up’ numerous times in our lives.
If we’re going to judge others in their moments of ‘weakness’, why not apply that same level of critique upon ourselves? If we’re going to speak about someone else’s transgressions, why not tell everyone about our own flaws?
Most of us have the audacity to complain about others; but never explain the context.
We formulate opinions and curate a narrative that’s (typically) not true. But for what? Social standing? To make ourselves feel better?
It’s just… absurd.
And we need to stop.
I’m not asking you to forgive someone who’s wronged you. Or forget the pain others have cause. But try see mistakes for what they are – “an act or judgement that is misguided or wrong.”
Some people will learn from these overnight. Others will take a lifetime. And that’s OK.
People will upset you throughout your life; and, if bad enough, make you never want to talk to them again. But that doesn’t mean they are their mistakes.
That acquaintance who said something offensive also helped you with some tricky task.
That best friend who betrayed you also created lifelong memories.
That ex who broke your heart also made it race.
*Except for the age-specific parts, maybe.